09 May 2013
Why a long distance relationship can work!
It's time for another one of my rants! As I just wanted to take some time to post a reaction on this article.
At first.. I wanted to say that I absolutely disagree on this article by saying a long distance relationship can be a good idea, if you both want to make it work. Love isn't something you pick, it's something that happens. No matter where you are! And as Shakespeare says: "The course of true love never did run smooth."
So as some of you might know I've been in a long distance relationship for about a year. The last 3,5 months I've been living together with my boyfriend which changed everything. But we did live on at least a 5 hours travel before all that. (..train, bus, plane, train, bus, tube...) And I know from stories and people around me that it could be worse then that. (He could've been from Australia or.. the USA!) We were able to see other once every month, as the distance between London and Utrecht is doable and most importantly: affordable. Me being a student luckily saved some money and was working next to school. My boyfriend has a full-time job which made it easier to pay for this all.
But not only that.. Why would a long distance relationship be so much different from a normal one. If you really like, or even love each other enough, the distance shouldn't hold you back. You can't touch other, and can't be face to face all the time. But the feeling should still be there, of course it will be more difficult. But why should you have to fall in love with someone who lives close, in the same country. You can't place love between borders. Reading Elite Daily's article made me quite angry. We live in 2013, we have internet, we have smartphones.. Wouldn't this be the time to be in a long distance relationship possible? Things like Skype, Whatsapp, Viber and other apps will make staying in touch possible.
Doesn't a long distance relationship every meeting a bit more special? Doesn't it make the weekend, week or month just that bit more. I'm not saying that a long distance relationship is 'better' than a 'normal relationship'. Because it both has their own charm, and of course your choice. I know that some people just don't want a long distance relationship. As they simply couldn't handle it, and I completely understand that! But I made the choice to try it, and it worked out great for us. If it will take forever? I have no idea, and to be honest I don't really want to think about that. I'm living my life right now and am absolutely loving it like this. We have great apartment together in London and of course we fight once in a while, but that's part of it. Just like every other relationship.
If you want to avoid love because there's a bit of a distance, your choice! But I think you shouldn't hold back because you can't see each other every month. Love is love, and if it's there, it's there. A relationship should be more than only touching each other all the time. And all though it's definitely a part of it, I won't deny that. And Skype can be an absolute pain in the ass, but you do talk a lot, get to know each other and watch movies/tv shows through the computer. (which can be quite weird and cause echoes) But isn't it a bit easy to say that it never works? Sometimes it doesn't, sometimes it does. But isn't that the way with every relationship? If you're dedicated and like each other enough a long distance relationship could definitely be a good thing!
It was quite hard to put this down in words, but I've tried and I hope you guys see where I'm coming from. I just don't get why people would say that it will never work.
What do you guys think about long distance relationships? I would love to know!